It is normally thought that the planning of the wedding is the bride's job, however, you, as the groom, have a major role to play so you should at least have some idea of what will be expected of you. Here is a list of some suggested duties:

1. Suggest writing an engagement announcement.

2. Make list of guests you would like to invite and start a spreadsheet with names and addresses.

3. Help work out a wedding budget.

4. Choose a Best Man and Groomsmen.

5. Meet with your Best Man and discuss responsibilities.

6. Set-up formalwear options for your Groomsmen.

7. Shop for wedding bands with your bride-to-be.

8. Help choose boutonniere for your Groomsmen.

9. Discuss honeymoon options with your bride-to-be. You should then plan and book everything.

10. Suggest taking dance lessons.

11. Book a hotel or other location for your wedding night.

12. Find maps and other transportation resources to assist your guests with their plans to attend your big day.

13. Set up a date for you and your bride-to-be to obtain the Marriage License.

14. Book wedding day transportation for you and your bride, the wedding party and possibly other family members.

15. Write a toast/thank-you speech for your guests.

16. Write up a list of songs for the DJ to play or NOT play.

17. Pay for and arrange for payment of officiant fees, musican fees, tips etc.

18. Write a special note thanking your bride for choosing to be your wife.

19. Write special notes for your parents and in-laws.

20. The most important duty of all...tell your bride, over and over on the day of your wedding, that she looks beautiful!